Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Getting Real

Andy Stanley did a series this past summer called The New Rules For Love, Sex, and Dating. He went on a popular morning radio show here in Atlanta and asked the public questions about love, sex, and dating. He came on the show not as some religious pastor, but as someone genially concerned for the well-being of our generation.

I loved listening to my pastor, on a radio station, talking real-talk with people who would other wise never listen to him. I loved hearing the opinions of those in our city. I loved that they were so honest.

In the world we live it is so common for people to have sex before marriage, to live with people before they get married, to have children before they live together or get married. But what if that wasn't the norm? What if we could change the way people think about love, sex, and dating. What if women weren't treated as a game, what if women honored their bodies and respected themselves? What if people lived their love lives the way Christ intended us to?

I'm not saying I'm some saint. I've made mistakes. I've struggled with not feeling good enough for Jesus. Why would He love someone like me anyway?

Throughout college I constantly surrounded myself with authentic believers and I came to understand that I am exactly the kind of person Jesus loves. Broken and all. He died for me. A sinner.

After listening to all four parts of The New Rules For Love, Sex, and Dating I can't help but wish I had heard these sermons years ago. Would it have changed things for me? Who knows. But what I do know is that I can help change things for someone else. My 6th grade small group girls, who look up to their three leaders, I can help change their lives. I can show them how to love, I can show them how to respect their bodies, I can show them Jesus.

Girls, we don't have to listen to what culture tells us about love. We don't have to conform to the norms. Sure it's awkward and weird to not do things like everyone else. But really, isn't our relationship with Christ more important than what the world says about us? Isn't our future relationship with our husband more important?

Guys, can your masculinity be defined by how much you love Jesus and not by how many girls you can hook up with? Isn't it more important to establish a firm relationship with Christ and be able to lead your {future} wife the way God intended you to?

I encourage anyone.. girls, guys, singles, married people, EVERYONE.. to watch this series. I promise you won't be disappointed. It's a game changer.

Click here to watch to all four messages for free

Be Blessed,


  1. Amazing, Jamie! Really awesome!

  2. That series changed a lot for me. Oh, how I want to teach others that life can be different!

  3. i swear your posts always speak to me...i can't wait to listen to that series -so glad you posted the link.

  4. thank you thank you thank you for sharing this!! exactly what I needed to hear and I've been listening all morning!!

  5. This is one of my favorite sermons he's ever done!! I'm so glad you posted it for more people to see!