Tuesday, July 1, 2014

What I've Learned About Being Pregnant...

I am entering into my fifth month of pregnancy and have really learned A LOT over these last 18 weeks so I thought I'd share a little pregnancy wisdom for any of my friends who will be in this stage in the near future....

not everyone's pregnancies are the same.
When I envisioned being pregnant I thought about being happy all the time, having that pregnancy glow, wearing cute maternity clothes & buying clothes for my baby. I never thought about the constant sickness, the headaches, the constipation, the extreme need for sleep, the 945 trips to the bathroom a day, etc. It's safe to say that I have had a pretty rough pregnancy. BUT that doesn't mean everyone will. I'm still hopeful that things will get better as the weeks continue. but if not, then that's okay! As long as Bennett is safe, healthy, and growing I will take all the pain in the world for him. It's not going to stop me from complaining but it makes it easier knowing my baby is doing just perfect : ) I don't want my experience to scare someone into not getting pregnant because chances are you will have a much better experience then me!

everyone is an expert...especially people who don't have kids.
I can't tell you how many people have offered unsolicited advice on pregnancy, parenting, etc. It kills me..especially coming from people who have never experienced any of it. I'll be the first to admit that I don't have a clue what the heck I'm doing, but having RANDOM people constantly shoving advice down my throat is super annoying.

you completely change.
Before I got pregnant I was 100% focused on my career. I wanted every degree and certification imaginable to boost me forward as a teacher. When I got pregnant that all changed. I realized how much time I was spending on school work and how little I was focusing on being pregnant. Bennett is my number one priority (and adam too) right now and I don't want that to ever change!

you will love your husband more than ever. and he will think you're hot.
Adam and I have been together for 5 1/2 years. I love that man more than anything in the entire world. but watching him become a daddy over the last 18 weeks has made me fall more in love with him than I ever thought possible. Hearing him talk about Bennett is so amazing! and on the flip side, even though I feel like a beached whale 99% of the time Adam is constantly telling me how great I look and how much he loves seeing me pregnant. I can't tell you how much this helps my self-esteem (it's not easy getting fat, y'all..even for a baby!).

you don't have to do it like everyone else.
Before I got pregnant I thought I would do weekly chalkboard updates, blog everyday about my experience, and be fully into being pregnant. Turns out I'm actually the complete opposite. I constantly tell people the wrong week for how far along I am because I can't keep track, I haven't taken a picture of my belly in weeks, and I have no idea what size "fruit" my baby is. I don't know if it's because of the extreme sickness or what, but I am acting completely different than I thought I would. Don't get me wrong I am SOOOOO happy to be pregnant..but it's just really hard.

I'm sure there's a lot more that I've learned but I've already gotten up twice to pee while writing this post so I think I'm done : )

5 comments:

  1. HAHA love all of this. I'm totally thinking I will fail at chalkboard updates, etc as well! Praying that you started feeling better!

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  2. Some of these really make me laugh. You’re going to be a GREAT Mama and I can’t wait!!!

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  3. Haha I LOVE that you don't know what size "fruit" baby Bennett is. Too funny. Keep on keeping on girl! Prayers for you and your sweet babe :)

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  4. Bahaha I didn't know what fruit the boys were either! Bennett won't hold it against you! I am so excited for ya'll!! Hoping you feel a little better in the following weeks- and you're right every priority you have goes out the window when you're about to embark on the best adventure of your life! xo

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  5. Jamie, I've read your blog for a little while now & loved what you wrote here! My first baby just turned one & reading this brought back so many memories of being pregnant with him...and the first thing that came to my mind when I read this was "YES!" It is OK for pregnancy to be hard. Carrying a baby is a miracle.

    And fast forward a few months down the road after your little boy is born...you may or not feel this way, but it's OK then if you don't miss being pregnant like so many people say they do. When you're ready for a 2nd, that feeling will come back, but you are not a bad mom if you don't miss being pregnant. And you are a GREAT mom now, even when the carrying is hard! Hope that encourages you today from someone who's been right there.

    Congratulations on your little boy! Boys are SO much fun!!

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