Thursday, July 13, 2017

Q+A [part 2]

Yesterday I answered the first round of questions and today I am back to answer the rest! It's fun to hear what you guys have questions about and have loved sitting down to answer them. This second round ended up having much longer answers so bare with me as you read through them ; )

1. Any tips for transitioning from 1-2 babies?
I got this question a lot! When I got pregnant with Shep Bennett had just turned a year old (he turned one on Dec. 4th and I found out I was pregnant on Dec. 31st). I was never really that worried about having kids close in age but for some reason a lot of people around me were haha! When Shep was born Bennett was 21 months old. Having two kiddos in diapers and two under two was not nearly as bad as people had made it out to be. I actually love that I had my kids close in age. I think the biggest thing for me when I had Shep was being okay with receiving help from people. At first I felt guilty for spending so much time with Shep snuggled up on the couch while everyone else was tending to Bennett but I realized that that's what I needed to do in the beginning. After a couple weeks I was able to ease into taking care of both of them full time. We kept Bennett's schedule as normal as possible (he still went to daycare 3 days a week when I was home on maternity leave) and I think that helped him a ton. With him being so young I think he had an easier time becoming a big brother and having to share his mommy because he didn't really know any different. Of course there are times where it is overwhelming to have two little ones but overall it has been great!

2. Where did the boy's names come from?
Surprisingly coming up with names is something Adam and I really struggled with during both pregnancies. Anything I liked he hated and vice versa. For some reason I always wanted to have a name picked out before we found out the gender so that I would immediately be able to call them by name. With Bennett we went back and forth a lot on his name. Finally one day I was looking through a Pottery Barn Kids magazine and saw the name "Bennett" on something. I asked Adam if he liked it and for the first time he actually said yes! It just felt right and we both loved it. We thought it was original since we had never met any other Bennetts but of course as soon as he was born he had 2 Bennetts in his church class and 2 at daycare ha! We still love his name though and it fits him perfectly! 

When it came time to pick a name for Shep we had thrown around some different names that we liked for both genders but never really fully decided until after we found out he was a boy. I remember sitting in the waiting room after our ultrasound while we waited to see my midwife and I looked at Adam and I was like "we have to pick a name now!" I just had to call him by name!! We both knew we had always loved the name Shep (first time I heard the name was from one of the founders of Vineyard Vines, although people like to ask if he is named after Shep on Southern Charm....negative ha!) but also knew that wasn't a "proper" name. We loved the idea of giving him a strong Southern name and using Shep as a nickname. The name Harrison was something that was also on our list so we decided to just combine the two. We know he may hate us later on for going by his middle name but we think Shep is perfect for him.

3. What is your skin care routine?
This was also something I was asked about a lot, which made me laugh. I do love taking care of my skin and it's something I actually do a lot. For starters I only wear make up if I absolutely have to. I also always wear SPF moisturizer whether I have on makeup or not. If I did wear makeup during the day I ALWAYS take it off ASAP when I get home. I use a Makeup Eraser to take off my makeup and I swear it's the greatest thing ever. I used to use makeup remover wipes but I never have to buy those now! As far as washing my face, I use my Clarisonic Mia in the shower a couple times a week with face wash. I actually don't have great skin so this is why I'm so crazy about taking care of it. I break out easily and have oily skin. That's why I like being pregnant so much because my skin actually looks great haha!

4. Any tips for pregnancy?
In the spirit of full transparency, I'm not exactly the best pregnant person. I didn't work out, I probably didn't drink enough water, I didn't give up caffeine, and I certainly didn't take my prenatal vitamins as much as I should so I don't have many tips in that area. I did however take a lot of naps! I think for me just being relaxed and not stressing about things really made a big difference for me. 

5. Do you have any tattoos?



I do! I have two. The first one I got on my wrist when I was 20. My brother and I got matching ones, "family" in cursive. The second one I got with Nicole. We had both been in a really rough season (her dealing with infertility and me dealing with our miscarriage) and we both wanted to do something fun that would help us remember this particularly rough season. We both felt like our relationships with Jesus had been strengthened so much by the trials we went through and the words we had inked into our skin were representative of that. So one random weekend in October of 2015 while Adam, Bennett, and I were in Mississippi we made it happen! ~Fun fact: the font of my tattoo is the same font I use for my blog name~

6. How do you budget being a teacher and having 2 babies?
I'm sure it's no surprise to y'all but teachers aren't exactly rollin in the dough. My husband works in non-profit ministry so he certainly isn't either. Which is why budgeting and staying on top of our finances is something that we are really serious about. We currently use the Every Dollar app to budget and it has been a game changer for us. We track every single dollar that comes into our account and every dollar that goes out. We know exactly how much money we have in different categories and it really helps us to maintain our budget, as well as save as much as possible. We also get our side hustle on constantly ha! I love selling stuff on our local garage sale Facebook pages and we both use apps like Ibotta to earn extra money. We have definitely embraced a more minimal lifestyle since having kids and have had to really prioritize our spending. I actually love the way we have simplified our lives and don't feel like we've had to miss out on anything because of it. We definitely can't go out and buy whatever we want or take extravagant vacations right now but we know we are building a financial legacy for our family that will outlast any temporary material object. We also feel very passionate about living a debt free life. If we need to put it on a credit card we probably don't need it. That's not to say we have never or will never use one it's just not something that is a part of our every day spending habits. I'd love to do more posts about this topic since it's something we really enjoy so let me know if you'd like to hear more in depth about it. 

If you made it this far, thank you for reading! Also, thank you to those of you who took your time to ask these questions. I have really loved being able to connect with all of my readers on a more personal level : )

3 comments:

  1. I would definitely love to hear more about your budgeting if you are comfortable sharing. I am currently trying to convince hubby of having baby #2 sooner rather than later and budgeting plays a huge role, for him at least ;)

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  2. Great posts! I have a (maybe silly) question. What kind of sippy cup do y'all use? My baby is 9 m and isn't really taking to sippy cups

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    1. We use the cheapo straw cups from Target the most!

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